Are You Going Through Life A Chameleon?

Sometimes we pretend to want change and work very hard to convince others we in fact have changed. Usually...we have found a way to blend in; adapting to whatever others expect or want from us. This allows us to remain true to ourselves internally but living a falsehood externally. Most of the time these lifestyle can't be maintained for very long, generally six months or so, based upon experience.

As a human, molding yourself to be what others want you to be never leads to a positive outcome. In fact just the opposite. It can create misunderstandings, mistrust and destroy the very thing you were attempting to achieve in the first place.

If you want to change then muster up your intent and go for it. If you choose otherwise, honesty with yourself and others is the only viable option.

Anyone who has attempted change understands exactly the commitment required to obtain their desired outcome. Change is never an easy path, often fraught with diversions and setbacks. It is like the Universe challenges your original intent and desire, testing your will. Do you really, really, want this? These are the moments weakness can overcome our desire and derail our train.

Sometimes life circumstances require us to be more adaptable. Although it might feel like a better idea to just stay in the moment, perhaps taking a risk or letting go of old parameters, is exactly what is needed.

Be true to your desires and aim toward being your authentic self. Find your nature and nurture it fully. Always remember change isn't easy for those around you to understand and embrace. These are your changes, they may not be on board. Sometimes really decent people undermine the efforts of others trying a new path. Usually fear of forced personal changes fuel their insecurity.

Stay strong in your convictions and work spiritually towards that goal. Remember compassion for those unable to understand your intent. Practice gratitude and ask for guidance along the way.

But...it might just be fun to be a chameleon for a little bit   ...don't ya think?

Treading On Thin Ice!

Many of us are treading on thin ice these days, figuratively and literally. I think one more snow day just might send some of us over the edge. Even our cat has cabin fever. She sits by the door and cries. The need to track and catch something fills her dreams. She has become a compulsive eater as well.  Boy, can I relate to that!

Ghost

But every day or so a new garden catalog shows up to lift my spirit. Birds sing their spring song louder, trying to lure warmer days. And....the bestest, most wonerfulest, specialist, thing ever is occurring with increased appreciation....we are blessed with more light.

Light is an amazing thing. It chases away so many fears. Light can diminish the wall of loneliness felt when alone in the dark. Light helps chase away illness, brings a glimmer of hope to the heart. Energy is amazingly increased as well, as we are magically drawn towards the light. Enthusiasm pushes us to be more active with our renewed being. We feel lighter, feel more joy.

There is also a Spiritual light. It is light, beautiful healing, loving energy flowing freely within. This light has no boundary and never lacks in abundance. It is available even during the darkest time of day or night.

When you let the light fill your soul ....you actually glow. Your physical being radiates an inner light of compassion and love. Your light allows you to relax and understand the world around you in a clearer fashion. It lifts and grounds unlike anything else.

Appreciate the light and welcome it in.  Allow yourself to glow! See all the beautiful glowing people and things which surround you. Upon finding someone a little on the "dim" side, share a little of yours. Pay it forward. Don't worry it is self renewing, you won't miss a thing.

There's light around the corner.

Take a slow deep breath. Flip on your switch and glow.
Warmer days are ahead. 

I See Dead People

Over the weekend I saw parts of The Sixth Sense, one of my favorite movies. Originally I saw it in a theater and figured out the ending fairly easily; because I also sort of see dead people.



If you have not seen the movie: this little boy sees dead people all around trying to talk with him, asking for help,or simply hanging out. Seeing these individuals creates all kinds of havoc, making him wish they would just disappear. Boy, I get that! Imagine for just one second how that would feel.

Sure, you have an occasional oddball who might get a kick out of it, but not many. Think about it! Never a moment alone, never having silence, always facing others fears and dying, over and over, day in and day out. ..not for me thanks.

But...I see dead people none the less, just in a different way.

It is not my intent to convince you what I experience, but to try and explain how I experience it.

My grandmother passed when I was in my early 20's. I was given her beautiful bed as a gift. But I couldn't enjoy it because every night she stood at the bottom, looking at me. I asked her to please go and stop doing that. Which she eventually did, along with the bed. I simply could not stand sleeping in it.

It was the first time I connected with someone who had left this earth. It was the last time I ever actually "saw" them. In fact for many years contact was very sparse. Until a uninvited and unexpected mother of a dear friend actually demanded my attention. Since then it has become the norm.

Once I accepted the fact I would be interacting with the dearly departed, I sort of put in a special request, please....don't make me actually "see" them! So far I haven't had to and found a way to connect. I send out a request for their energy and usually they respond.

The ability to communicate with those past over takes some adapting. There is a learning curve so to speak. Every experience is unique and I still find out new things with every interaction.

Trust me it is not like the television shows, Medium or The Ghost Whisperer. Daily life is rather normal and unglamorous. At least mine is, for which I am thankful.

My spirits are sensed somewhere internally, deep within they appear to me. I hear them and what they wish to convey, not always easily or correctly at first. I am told that inflections and speech patterns of the deceased sometimes come across.

Certain individuals tend to stand in particular places, for whatever reason. Some leave human ideas behind, others hang on to them for dear life, and a few proceed directly into the light releasing all earthly bonds immediately. It seems you have many options after leaving this realm. You can choose appearance, age, condition, you name it. In fact you don't have to keep a body at all! You may also refuse to respond when summoned. You still retain free will.

Most spirits are seeking peace and forgiveness. Many want loved ones to know they are ok, they made it. Generally these experiences provide answers to lingering questions. They also can give closure to pain and suffering for the family and friends remaining behind.

In closing, I caution those seeking such connection. We are to live in this plane and they in theirs. Hanging on will hold both parties from moving forward. Should you feel the need, please choose your assistant carefully to be certain of a positive outcome for all.

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say!

Being a good listener is only half of a conversation. One must also be able to express ideas and thought clearly and distinctly in order for the listener to comprehend and respond appropriately.

Frequently this necessitates engaging the undivided attention from the person to whom you are speaking. Perhaps you will need to ask if they understand what you are saying. At times, you may need to request they repeat back what they think you said, especially with children. This assures a clear understanding of what all parties have said during the conversation.

Think your thoughts out clearly prior to speaking. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Leave little to individual interpretation or room for misunderstanding.

Stop talking long enough for the other person to be an active participant. Listen and respond appropriately. Clarify any thought not clearly presented previously in your conversation.

If you find yourself in the position of addressing a difficult subject with someone just remember this: You can say anything you need to say to anyone, and they will hear you.... as long as you say it with a compassionate heart.

The best example of difficult communication clearly can be experienced dealing with support techs. Many of us have been extremely frustrated by our failure to resolve issue while speaking with them. I don't mean to insult anybody, but come on, ya know what I mean!

Enjoy the example below.

Are you listening?

I must confess....sometimes I do not listen when others talk. Ideas and responses are busy playing out in my head. There isn't room enough inside for both of us to talk, leaving my ability to  know what is being said lacking.

It usually isn't because I don't care about them or what they are telling me. I simply have a tough time putting others need to be heard above mine sometimes.

Sure I can try to find justifications for it. Perhaps the need to talk is genetic. I grew up in a very vocal family, each demanding to be heard. Sometimes is got quite loud in our house. My first report from kindergarden said, "she is a very good student, but talks to much." My daughters and some of my grandchildren are amazing verbalists.

But all kidding aside, there are reasons we become poor listeners. Perhaps there is the feeling nobody really hears what you are saying, so you simply keep talking hoping sooner or later they get it. Which gives little room to be an active listener.

If you operate out of a sense of defensiveness, you turn off the ability to understand what others may be saying. No matter the topic you must figure what to say next in defense of your belief.

Sometimes we simply do not want to hear what is being said and allow ourselves to drift elsewhere for a few moments. Any wife or mother is aware of the amazing ability children and spouses have in selective hearing. Many husband will tell you wives are the same in this regard.

Some cultures have utilized a talking stick. One must not say a word until it is passed to them. Which shows this has been a long standing problem.

So, if you are going to spend time in conversation, then take the time to actively listen. Let the other person know you are hearing and understanding what they are saying. You will appreciate the same courtesy when you get to talk. If necessary....go get a stick!

Enjoy Huge Laurie in a skit about him not actively listening!

Angels- Real?

Often I am asked if I believe in Angels. The quick response it yes. But I am still learning about them so I am certainly no expert in this field.

My experiences have led me to believe the following.

The ones I am familiar with are not noted in any particular order.

It seems an angel is assigned to us as we enter this world. These guardians usually are a relative recently passed or one you never met. Once in a while you may not even have a family connection. All I have encountered have experience human life at one time. I gather being a Guardian is their choice. They are capable of checking on many of us at the same time. They do not get wings, as far as I know. Your privacy is respected but they don't care about your personal space. Their intent seems to be to quietly guide you during your stay here. If you get real quite inside you may actually hear them.

There are other angels which seem to attach themselves due to our life situation. For example, having financial difficulties may draw in someone who lived as an accountant while here, to help guide you. If there is a great chance of an accident you might draw someone that passed from just such an event. Seldom will you know them, usually they are complete strangers offering assistance to those in need. They wish to direct you out of difficulty. They leave after the need passes. They also do not get wings. If you are having a problem, call on one of these for advice.

The then we have the ""big" angels. Beings of light that radiate such a bright whiteness, to see one leaves you in awe. Some I have seen are huge, completely filling the corner of a room, wings spread out touching the ceiling. The have a calmness and a strength that could make you tremble in fear. If they arrive it is usually for a very special purpose. They can heal all emotional, physical and spiritual wounds. They can become impatient with those slow to understand their will. But they also surround you with a loving energy that lifts you off your feet. Once you encounter one of these you never forget the experience. To my knowledge, these being have never lived on this plain.

And lastly, we seem to have a group who's only purpose to to watch over everything and everyone, like patrollers on duty. They seem to keep things running. I am not certain if they have wings. I don't believe they ever existed in human form, which makes me think they probably have wings. They seem to have a sprite energy and sometime are unable to direct their energy like the big angels. The do not present the same strength and are seem rather insignificant in general.

If you have any additional questions or comments about angles I would enjoy hearing them.

What do you think? 

Real?

Moving Day!

I'm sure most of have moved at least once in our lifetime. I confess to far too many moves. My last move was about three years ago. I tell everyone my next move is across the street (to beautiful little cemetery) or about one mile from here to a nursing home.

I have also helped others. Just last week I assisted a dear friend in her transition to a new space. Of course this was during the largest snow storms we have had in years! Something I am sure her son will never let her forget. While it was a lot of work, it also had many moments of fun and lightheartedness. It also was a nice diversion from shoveling.

But moving has taught me a few things also.

What seems like a great idea in the first place, becomes less appealing with every additional box you carry.While you are looking forward to the newness and changes it might bring, you can't help but wonder if you are making a mistake and will miss the old place. Things feel like they will never be organized again, or ready for the movers. You experience a sense of joy for your new space, while morning the loss of the old. You definitely under estimate things a lot: like the amount of work it will take and the time and energy required; before, during and after the move. Plus finding enough energy to deal with the issue of unforeseen problems, which have a way of always popping up.

Which on moving day leaves one to appear......like a dear in caught in headlights!

But over the years I learned this little secret.

You carry your home with you, like a turtle and it's shell. It doesn't matter where or how often you move. It doesn't even matter if you have a permanent home.

Because home really is where the heart is.

What we long for is a sense of security, a sense of love, a place where we feel nurtured. 

The secret is......We carry that inside us...it is your spirit and can provide all you seek. It goes where you go and requires only that you ask for assistance. When you do....you are welcomed home! 

No matter where you go or what you have in life you can always go home. 

Just connect with your spiritual haven.