Be Who You Were Meant To Be!

Are you always re-inventing yourself to please others? I admit to having done it myself numerous times, fearful to just be who I was born to be. Something so simple in thought, yet extremely challenging at the same time. Why? Because we want others to like us, give us approval, support and love, therefore we attempt to be what they want, not necessarily ourselves.

We create many personalities to cope with the different demands and ego of those around us. We are many, in one; child, parent, lover, worker, friend, on and on, each with independent responsibilities and expectations, so we "create" acceptable persona's to get by, which may or may not be true to your nature. Eventually, we forget how to be ourselves, happy just to blend in and be left alone, accepting emotional reward wherever we can get it. It is my belief this is exactly what the saying, "they are beside themselves" means, no longer connected to true self.

Relationships suffer when we are not free to be, frustrations, angers grow, leading to separation and disappointment. Families fail to stay together, no longer able to deal with criticism and emotional rejection, fleeing the constant demand to be created in some other person's image.

It takes strength to stay true to yourself, requires being honest to yourself, about yourself. Pay attention how you present yourself, find how many of you there are. Listen to yourself as you talk, how you respond, feel around family and friends, co-workers. You may be surprised what you find.

Last year I became determined to become just one of me, no matter the situation. It is freeing, you learn to feed your own ego in a healthy way, life seems less complicated, connection with others becomes deeper, more genuine.

So, if you feel most of your life has been "shape shifting" then give my idea a whirl, you have nothing to lose except excess baggage. Be yourself, fearlessly. It is alright if others disapprove, it isn't your job to please them. in the first place.